A student approached a COPA facilitator following a workshop in his class to tell him about his friend who got bullied a lot. The situation had been going on for a long time. A couple of boys would yell at his friend and call him names. Whenever it happened, the student would yell back and call them names, in an effort to defend his friend.
Then, the student shared the following insight with the facilitator: "I'm just so glad you all came and talked to us about our rights and responsibilities and stuff. Because now I see, when I yell back at them, I'm doing something wrong, too. I want to figure out some other stuff I can do that won't take away their rights."
This student had realized that he was hurting other people, and he had the courage to make a different choice, breaking the cycle of violence.
A student approached his teacher, telling her he was being bullied. She explored the situation with him to see what he needed and also spoke to the student doing the bullying.
Through her intervention with the student doing the bullying, the teacher learned that he was very ashamed of his behaviour. The student made immediate changes to stop the bullying behaviour and revealed that he was having a hard time in school because he was a newcomer and didn't speak English very well. In an attempt to hide this perceived vulnerability, he was picking on others.
The teacher knew the bullying had stopped because she also checked in with the student who was being bullied who confirmed that he was still feeling safe. She was also able to support the newcomer student in obtaining additional support in learning English.